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Fabulous Hybrid Blog Carnival! Change

April 29, 2012

Welcome to the Fabulous Hybrid Blog Carnival. Our topic this spring is Change! This post was written for inclusion in the quarterly Blog Carnival hosted by The Fabulous Mama Chronicles and Hybrid Rasta Mama. This month our participants reflect on change in all of its many forms. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


Hi there, Fabulous Hybrid Blog Carnival Readers! Welcome to Fat and Not Afraid! And a big hello to all my regular folks too. Today’s blog is about change, or more specifically, the things I’d like to change before Raisin arrives sometime in August. I’ve written in the past how things have changed recently in my life; our giant move from Northern Ontario to Nanaimo, Gabe’s struggles with school, this pregnancy and its effects on my body and way of thinking, even changes in my Circle as a Pagan, but these are things that have happened to me or around me. Yes, I chose to move, and I definitely chose to have this baby, and I chose to volunteer to become Priestess, but during our move it was more like being chauffeured across the country, enjoying being a passenger, and with pregnancy, again, you’re really just along for the ride! Priestessing fell into my lap and I wasn’t going to say ‘no’ and potentially watch the Circle stagnant or worse, fall apart.

Before Raisin arrives there are a few things I’d like to take firmly in hand, a few changes I’d like to make; as we say in Circle, She Changes Everything She Touches, but instead of the Goddess making change all over, I want it to be me! Being a working mom, even part time, and wife, and Priestess, and blogger/online activist I feel like I never have a lot of time. That’s the first thing I’m going to change. With long days stretching ahead of me and a naturally early bedtime, I’m going to wake up early, before Gabe or Ryan, and take advantage of my morning bounciness. Checking my email in the quiet light, sipping a well-brewed cup of coffee, and organizing my thoughts for the day sounds a lot better than the usual run-around in 45 minutes I have been getting as I try to get all of us out the door and on time.

Part of the organizing my thoughts will be being able to FIND ALL THE THINGS. I keep a fairly tidy house, but ask me to put my hands on my landlord’s phone number, or that book I borrowed from you several weeks ago, and I’m at a loss. My desk is a hopeless clutter of piles of paper, kid toys (right now I can see a Pikachu, Pokemon cards, some and some perler bead creations), and odds and ends. The counters around me in the kitchen are the same. Every once in a while I try to do a massive clean up and throw out, but within a few days it goes right back to the way it was. Obviously this isn’t working. I need a system of some kind for all the papers; blogging ideas, things to scrapbook (ha ha ha! Yeah right; I haven’t made a page since shortly after Gabe was born!), reviews for the paper, work information, Gabe’s school notes, there’s just a lot. Bills and paystubs and other Important Things have a home in Ryan’s filing cabinet, but the rest of it is up to me.

Finally, the biggest thing I’d like to change I’d like to tackle is simply being more mindful; being in the moment, enjoying things as they come up, like story-time with Gabe or movies with Ryan, time outside in the gardens (such as they are), walks to work, and hanging out with friends. I spend a LOT of time online, way more than I should, both at work and at home. For a while I had a timer on my computer that would turn off the whole thing every hour, but it was only a free trial and since it’s run out, I’m back online probably 8 hours a day, including work time where I do data entry. That’s probably going to be the biggest challenge, staying offline more and being more efficient with the time I DO spend online. I’m hopeful that if I start making these changes now, over the next three months or so I’ll have this new routine and way of doing things down pat just in time for Raisin to show up and throw it all out the window! Thanks for reading, and welcome again to Fat and Not Afraid.



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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants. It will be updated by 3:00pm PST on Monday. April 30th:

"Finally, the biggest thing I’d like to change I’d like to tackle is simply being more mindful; being in the moment, enjoying things as they come up" Ahhhhhh yes! I think that all of us mamas work on this every single day! It is tough to enjoy things as they comes when there is just so much "life" in the way!

I love your simple approach to getting ready for baby! Finding all the things is important!

I had no idea that you are a Priestess now. Wow! That is really wonderful and certainly timely.

Thank your for participating on our first Carnival with a wonderful post!

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It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. And you know, I think that your goal to be more organized and to find things will play directly in to your goal to be more in the moment. At least, that is how life works for me. I find that when I have my home and life in balance and order, there are far fewer non-essential things begging for my attention and so I am able to fully enjoy the things that really matter to me. It's a big task getting all sorted and in order, but once it's done and once you get that system in place, I think life can be really full and enjoyable - and more care-free!

Great piece, and congrats on being a priestess! (I don't really know much about that, but it sounds like an honor.)


Getting organized is a big endeavor, I know! But once you get yourself sorted out and stick to it, it is liberating! Knowing where everything is and actually getting things done on your lists is very satisfying. It also frees off time to just sit and ponder about life and enjoy it!

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Ah, I can relate! We have a busy household too, and lots of stuff on our plates. It sounds as though you have great priorities, and that you are positive and flexible, that will take you a looooong way! =) I love your goal of being mindful and living in the present moment. As mommas we get lots of admonishments to 'cherish them while they are young!' because 'they grow so fast!' to the point where it gets irritating. Living more in the moment can help with the cherishing bit. =)
For the organization bit; have you heard of flylady? She's got a website with an organizational system for cleaning house; I just discovered it this past fall and I swear, it is awesome. I spend WAY less time cleaning and have a WAY tidier house. It's not perfect, and lots of stuff she suggests I don't do, but the basics are awesome. And my house is by no means perfect. But it is light years ahead of what it used to be like...

Best of luck with your goals!



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