Over the long weekend, actually probably last Thursday morning, I had a conversation over Facebook with a friend who is also pregnant, but is a) much much smaller in body size than me and b) roughly 8 weeks further along. She was sweetly asking her pregnancy to stop kicking her ass via FB post, so I gave her some *hugs* and we got chatting. Turns out the ass kicking she's getting is frequent dizzy spells and blackouts, even for something as simple as going to get a drink from the fridge. I asked her if her blood pressure was ok, which it is now, but the dizziness and blackouts are still happening much too often. Her midwife keeps telling her that it's just because of how small she is, and to drink more liquids.
I'm not a doctor, I'll be the first to admit that, but ever since Gabe was born I've done a ridiculous amount of reading on pregnancy, labour and delivery. I was a bit obsessed about it because I wanted to find out What I Did Wrong (turns out nothing!). If your BP is normal, no cause comes to mind as to why she'd be having dizziness and blackouts. The dizziness could be due to low iron, but I don't think the blackouts are connected. So, I told her what we in the Fatosphere would tell a fat person facing size bias from a health professional; stop looking at my size. What would you look for/tell me to do if I was of average size? Also, she's going to get a second opinion from her family doctor.
In this case I'm glad I knew what to say and could be supportive of my friend. She gets a lot of flack for being so small-the usual 'eat a sandwich' garbage, but I wasn't expecting it from her midwife. Size bias, it's all over the place, and issues and incidents like this are why I'm proud to say that my personal views and writings are evolving from just fat acceptance to BODY acceptance.