It's been six years now since I got into fat acceptance and health at every size. Hard to believe but it's the truth. When I got into this my son was only a year and a half; now he's a giant seven year old and, while sometimes he still thinks out loud when it comes to strangers, I'd like to think I've done a good job when it comes to helping have a good view of his own body and that of others. Finally tonight I got confirmation I'm Doing Something Right.
On my way home from work with my dad in law, Chris, we were talking about the day and the kids, catching up on how they did with their new babysitter, Maddie. Maddie is my cousin somewhat removed on my dad's side, but there's some resemblance there despite the genetic distance. She was great with Katherine and Chris told me she and Gabe really hit it off. Gabe told Chris he liked her so much because "She's round like mom!" It made me laugh in wonder.
Roundness is seen as a plus to my son, the soft, squishiness that I was uncomfortable with growing up and well into my adult life. Roundess is a positive trait because I've made it that way. Somehow I've managed to drown out the fat shaming and body hate that is so prevalent in our society and move Gabe from being afraid of being fat someday (this was a fear of his a year or two ago) and to a place where being round is good. At this moment I am content. I'm proud. I'm grateful to every writer, blogger, actress and actor, activist and fatshionista who took the time, and is still taking the time, to make it possible for parents like me to do this wonderful thing; erase fat hate.